Scripture warns believers to "guard your heart" (Proverbs ).
For the single parent, this means that you will have to do some "guarding" for your children by not involving them with your suitors too soon in a relationship.
Like Jennifer, she needs some advice but is concerned about how she can make the transition into dating easy on her children. He'd like to date again, and some of his friends say he should start looking for a woman now — after all, he's getting divorced soon.
But John knows better because he's still married, and dating now would go against God's desires.
One way to avoid the temptation of settling is to know what's acceptable and what's not, to both you and God, before you start looking for love.
This is where slowing down before getting into a serious relationship helps.
Some people hold off until engagement before introducing their significant other to their kids.
(Granted, this can create other complications because you want to know how your children will respond to a potential mate prior to engagement.) Bryan, a single father of three, always meets his dates on neutral ground with his children, such as at a church picnic or at movie theatre with friends.When Becky asked him how long he'd been divorced, he admitted that it wasn't final yet, that he was living in the basement of the home that he and his wife shared, and that they'd only been separated for three weeks.Becky gently told her date that he needed to first pursue emotional and spiritual healing. But dating so soon will almost inevitably lead to heartache, since he's neither emotionally nor legally available.However, Scripture is clear that it doesn't matter if someone has been married or not, sex with someone other than your spouse is still fornication (I Thessalonians 4:3, I Corinthians 6:9).Don't wait to put some practical boundaries in place, such as not staying at your date's home overnight.You can also establish an accountability group made up of those who know and love you.